• kameecoding@lemmy.world
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    17 days ago

    I have a friend group for 25 years, I will be 33 this year.

    It’s always sad to read replies to posts like these with people saying they have no friends.

    And since I am a guy I can literally not talk to some of them for months and just literally pickup where we left off and talk for hours without it feeling awkward, forced whatever

    • Count Regal Inkwell@pawb.social
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      16 days ago

      And since I am a guy

      Just using your post as a springboard to get all 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

      but I wonder how much of the idea of “women’s friendships decay, men’s friendships can pick up exactly where they left off” is based on reality… And how much of it is just a stereotype based on social norms that are no longer true. Y’know, like the idea that “women have naturally better emotional intelligence” (the reality is that most young boys were and on some level still are discouraged from engaging with emotions in general, and it’s hard to get good at something with no practice)

      I can’t even cite personal anecdotal experience as an argument for or against because my friendship group is mostly queer dudes with the occasional transgender chick or enby person.

      • krawutzikaputzi@lemm.ee
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        16 days ago

        As a woman I have friend’s I just talk to whenever I want, like once or twice per year and never had a problem with them. Athough there were friends I lost because we didn’t have enough contact and they didn’t like that. Looks like it depends on the person and not the gender. Who would have thought that ;-)