So, my good friend (18m) had a falling out with his ex (19m) because the ex bullied him and also because he is apparently dating a 16f, so my friend thinks he is a pedophile for obvious reasons (adult + minor).
I can see why this would be considered bad but also, when I turn 16, my girlfriend will be 19 too, as I am currently a young sophomore who is about 3 years younger than her girlfriend, a senior.
A 10 year age gap is the same numerically at age 40-50 as it is at age 10-20 but they are clearly vastly different. There’s an implicit power imbalance.
So you give a whole new example. Do you want to compare an one hundred year gap now? They are different things. You just gave a more extreme example. 4 years is not much and doesn’t matter
I gave a more extreme example to demonstrate that your “they are the same numerically” idea is flawed
It’s the same numerically, like you said.