My siblings’ kids are all angry at the hubris their parents had to birth them. I love them and get it, but it’s a hell of a lot more complicated than that and nihilism is so 2005. I think. I was pretty dissociated that year but I had a professor who talked about it a lot according to dissociated me’s notes.
My wife and I had ours in 2024. I’ve always felt that it was my purpose to be an amazing dad to someone, because I didn’t really have one.
So I went ahead and became an amazing dad. I’m righting so many wrongs, healing, learning from and teaching myself, my wife and those around me, blah blah blah. There is just that much more love in the world and I feel so much more capable than I did before.
Will my little one start asking the hard questions in 10-15 yrs?
Probably. But they won’t be alone.
I am willing to bet that they won’t be too far off from the ones I was asking at that age. Not only does little one have 2 committed, full-time, safe parents – I also feel 100x more prepared to follow those inquiries than any adult figure that was in my life was when I was doing the asking. Yes, we are lucky. IMO it behooves the lucky ones to put in this work.
“Nihilism” is the perfect descriptor for this flavor of antinatalism. I do get where it’s coming from (because, believe me, we have struggles). And yeah, don’t have a kid who you know won’t be supported – it’s irresponsible. But don’t pretend you’re better off because of a choice we made for ourselves.
I don’t feel like we’re even close to a stage where it’s ok to just throw up our hands, turn away, and let the light die out. We need a turning towards and inwards to make a better place, even if the struggles are uncomfortable.
My siblings’ kids are all angry at the hubris their parents had to birth them.
It’s a weird thing to be angry about. They now have agency over the world they live in. If they hate it, they can change it. That’s an opportunity given to vanishingly few life forms on the planet.
Have a kid.
18 years from now: “Good luck in the water wars, son”
I’m too nice to do that to someone.
Are ya winning, son?
My siblings’ kids are all angry at the hubris their parents had to birth them. I love them and get it, but it’s a hell of a lot more complicated than that and nihilism is so 2005. I think. I was pretty dissociated that year but I had a professor who talked about it a lot according to dissociated me’s notes.
My wife and I had ours in 2024. I’ve always felt that it was my purpose to be an amazing dad to someone, because I didn’t really have one.
So I went ahead and became an amazing dad. I’m righting so many wrongs, healing, learning from and teaching myself, my wife and those around me, blah blah blah. There is just that much more love in the world and I feel so much more capable than I did before.
Will my little one start asking the hard questions in 10-15 yrs?
Probably. But they won’t be alone.
I am willing to bet that they won’t be too far off from the ones I was asking at that age. Not only does little one have 2 committed, full-time, safe parents – I also feel 100x more prepared to follow those inquiries than any adult figure that was in my life was when I was doing the asking. Yes, we are lucky. IMO it behooves the lucky ones to put in this work.
“Nihilism” is the perfect descriptor for this flavor of antinatalism. I do get where it’s coming from (because, believe me, we have struggles). And yeah, don’t have a kid who you know won’t be supported – it’s irresponsible. But don’t pretend you’re better off because of a choice we made for ourselves.
I don’t feel like we’re even close to a stage where it’s ok to just throw up our hands, turn away, and let the light die out. We need a turning towards and inwards to make a better place, even if the struggles are uncomfortable.
It’s a weird thing to be angry about. They now have agency over the world they live in. If they hate it, they can change it. That’s an opportunity given to vanishingly few life forms on the planet.
Oh, yeah? How? They are as powerless as you and me. And looking at the past couple of decades, shit is going downhill fast.