This is what my wife and I did. I think it is a good thing to do, but if you look at my comment history just one comment down from this, you’ll see good reason for what I’m about to say:
Not everyone should do this. It is extremely challenging, and its not something I think most people can take on successfully. Unfortunately, the fact that a kid is in a situation to be adopted means they have been severely impacted by trauma, which means that they will be considerably harder to parent than a kid you have biologically.
It is not for the faint of heart. Hell, its not even for those of a strong constitution. I have been nearly broken many times, and I’ve only been parenting my kids for 5 years. I have wanted to quit countless times.
Most definitely, but I think in general people underestimate the challenges they can find in adoption. Those kids deserve loving families, it’s just something I know people I personally know who have expressed interest in adopting would not be able to handle.
Wish you both the best of luck and send a hug. I hope the tide turns and you get to enjoy it more with time. We need more people like you in this world.
This is what my wife and I did. I think it is a good thing to do, but if you look at my comment history just one comment down from this, you’ll see good reason for what I’m about to say:
Not everyone should do this. It is extremely challenging, and its not something I think most people can take on successfully. Unfortunately, the fact that a kid is in a situation to be adopted means they have been severely impacted by trauma, which means that they will be considerably harder to parent than a kid you have biologically.
It is not for the faint of heart. Hell, its not even for those of a strong constitution. I have been nearly broken many times, and I’ve only been parenting my kids for 5 years. I have wanted to quit countless times.
I was adopted - abandoned at the hospital after birth. Not every adoptee has a deeply traumatic past that makes it hard to raise them.
Likewise many bio children are just as capable of being stressful and challenging to raise.
Most definitely, but I think in general people underestimate the challenges they can find in adoption. Those kids deserve loving families, it’s just something I know people I personally know who have expressed interest in adopting would not be able to handle.
Wish you both the best of luck and send a hug. I hope the tide turns and you get to enjoy it more with time. We need more people like you in this world.