Every so often, it’s normal to get Steam friend requests from people you’ve randomly played a match with.
What I’m wondering is - when should you be suspicious of such people?
I had someone the other day add me after playing Deep Rock Galactic (DRG). What made me somewhat suspicious immediately was on their profile, they describe themselves as a 26 year old woman. Obviously nothing wrong with that, but feels a bit incongruous on Steam, which is kind of an anonymous platform.
Anyway, they have since acted a lot like a real person who just wants people to play with might act, and we’ve played quite a lot together since. They haven’t done anything weird or shady yet - like not asked any overly personal questions or started up with a sob story or made romantic overtures or anything like that. They helped me discover all the other bits of DRG that I’d ignored - the assignments, free cosmetics, and so on - which has reignited an interest in the game.
There was one time when they asked me to join a voice chat in steam chat, and I did but they said they couldn’t hear me very well (which is possible as I’m on Linux and mic issues are not uncommon, esp as I was using a bluetooth headset). I think they were going to suggest I download some other thing, which would be a big red flag of course, but I was just saying that no one uses voice chat for DRG so they didn’t finish what they were saying. Now they’ve said we should play Dead By Daylight, because it’s on a free weekend. I’ve downloaded it and noticed it doesn’t have built-in voice chat. So is this a ruse to get me to install some dodgy software?
So I thought I’d ask here - how do you lemmings deal with these random friend invites? Do you always ignore them maybe, or perhaps it takes time before you consider them genuine? How do you think I should proceed?
Also, what risks are there if any with just adding people on Steam and playing games with them on Steam? I guess I’m thinking about things like the possibility that some multiplayer games might leak the IP addresses of people you’re playing with, things like that.
Dude, just talk to the person. You already seem to know every possible red flag there is. If they do something shady, you’ll know, but there’s also the possibility they’re just looking for friends.
I’ve made friendships online that are going for more than a decade at this point. I’m not saying you should trust everyone, but maybe just be less suspicious and let time show you what kind of person you’re taking to, it will reveal if the person is friendly or not.
Yeah I am talking with them, they do seem legit so hopefully I’m just being paranoid/overly cautious.
The reason I thought I’d post here is to make sure I’ve not missed something obvious and to understand what the risks are. I guess “something shady” would be asking me to do something weird like install unknown software, or asking lots of personal questions out of the blue.
Almost everyone uses discord for voip now. You can even use it in a browser.
I’ve got friends I still talk to on a regular from over 20 years ago from an MMO I played. Hell one of them, is a friend myself and another friend who I know offline still game with to this day, we’ve known them for almost 20 years now.
Get a better mic, download or browse to discord and act like a human.