A coworker who was the reason why I was moved to another department (she is friends with the manager) changed departments herself and now I sometimes have to work with her.
First time she saw me at her new position she greeted me as nothing happened, as she wasn’t the reason why I was moved laterally. I replied with a non effusive hi.
I don’t engage in non job related conversations with her, if I have to work with her I just ask her in a neutral voice where is what I need and proceed to do my job. Otherwise I avoid her because I don’t trust her. I don’t have to work with her whole shifts or every day, which is good.
The incident I mentioned on my first paragraph happened 2 years ago and I still remember it enough not to like that person. I don’t know if more mature folks would have already forgotten about it but I cannot. Am I holding an unhealthy grudge? I mean I’m happy if I don’t have to see her.
She never repented and apologised? You’re right not to trust this person. But like her there are just way too many people in this world and if we go around holding grudges we’ll never have peace. Yes, it was unfair. Yes, she never came around and explained/apologised and that sucks. But that’s life, and it isn’t anything big enough to consider retaliation. 🤷✌️