most of the instances I could find were filled with liberal centrists who call themselves leftist, and hate actual theory-reading commies.
something politically like lemmy.ml or even like lemmygrad would be perfect.
it also shouldn’t be heavily defederated against
Kolektiva.social
OP wants one that isn’t heavily defederated.
Unfortunately they tend to oppose Marxists, so OP wanting a more Grad-style instance than anarchist disqualifies Kolektiva.social.
That’s true. Although I wouldn’t say Marxist but more Leninist/stalinist/maoist tendencies.
I didn’t know what the word grad-style meant until now.
The overwhelming majority of Marxists agree with Lenin’s advancements on Marxism, be they Marxist-Leninists or Maoists (not to be confused with the ideology of the CPC, which is ML). At that point, can they really be considered Marxist friendly?