Not really related, but this is one of the many reasons why I’ve never been able to be in a relationship. I don’t feel that way about others, so faking it feels wrong to me. I went out with a guy a couple of times and felt gross doing that. So that’s about it.

Sometimes it’s frustrating that I can’t have an intimate relationship with someone that way, but what can you do? Have to go through life with the cards you’re dealt, I guess.

Hey I applaud you for putting yourself out there!

I think the fact that you’ve managed to marry and have kids is fantastic. It’s a big social hurtle that a lot of hermits never end up making it with, so you should be very proud of yourself for being vulnerable with another human being like that.

Tbh, I think over time that it ends up quite normal for people as they age to really just have their spouse and kids as their main “friends” without many others externally. So I think you’re doing pretty good on the weirdness and socialization scales haha.

But yeah I totally get you wanting to allow your wife a breather and have some other buddies to share the “social burden” with (I don’t mean it negatively, just not sure how to phrase it).

Best of luck to you!

Thanks! It’s because I’m so cool and popular! ;)

Hope you’re doing better now.

Growing up for me, the popular kids were actually also usually intelligent and got into good universities. So the stereotype of popular kids being dumb really doesn’t ring true everywhere.

Definitely not.

My mental issues developed at around middle school age for reasons totally unknown to me. I stopped talking to most people and had extreme social anxiety. I couldn’t relate to my peers, didn’t know how to speak to them, and had extreme fears of what they thought of me. I never fit into the mold of a stereotypical girl who was feminine and I never knew how to or was interested in figuring out how to look presentable/stylish like other girls would. I never developed an attraction to the opposite (or even same) sex, which was confusing and felt slightly alienating to be different from everyone. I would chant berating words to myself in my head for some reason all day when walking between classes. I pushed away the one friend I had like an asshole because I was afraid of social ramifications.

In late middle school/early high school, I discovered that there were communities of people online. I felt extremely comfortable communicating there (text only…was never comfortable with voice), and I credit those communities with helping my sanity for loneliness and also teaching me about how to communicate with others.

But I never really learned to make friends in person. Occasionally, someone in high school would try to befriend me but I literally did not catch on. Behavior like people randomly wanting to sit next to me or chat with me confused me. It is only after the fact that I realized they were trying to befriend me.

I have no idea why that happened with me. I was never bullied.

There was a group of girls that I grew up with that eventually shut me out which was very hurtful, but I don’t know that it really happened before I got all weird to trigger it. I think when I got weird, they noticed and shut me out.

Some of us just ended up crazy for no discernible reason I guess.

I get that puberty can be a rough time for everyone, but I didn’t really notice other peers having the same degree of social impairment as me. My siblings growing up did not either. I actually asked my mom not to have a graduation party for me (because I didn’t have any friends but I didn’t tell her that).

I’m in my 30s and still interact primarily online, but I would say I am significantly more adept and comfortable at interacting with others in person. In a work environment, I am totally comfortable and confident. In a party environment for example, I freak out.

Second from the right is my fav

You’re being downvoted but I was legitimately under that impression as well. Is it not actually the case??

20 is old? Rip me then I must be a skeleton.

I wish my sleep paralysis demons were this friendly and comforting

This is super interesting, thanks!

Yeah I don’t understand the meme

Here’s the thing, whether or not it’s a “lifestyle” shouldn’t even enter into the equation. Healthcare workers are supposed to treat everyone the same, regardless of what the patient has done or how they live. If you can’t deal with that, don’t go into healthcare.

For me it is my dad instead of my mom!

I feel for you, but I hope you understand why people are hesitant to trust a stranger on the internet asking them for money. As well this isn’t exactly a community designed for that. Wishing you the best.

Sometimes people want to verbalize how they think or feel. It’s human nature.

So it…worked? 🙃

Sorry about all that, man. I’m glad you’re still here and I hope things have been better since.

Me when I talk to chatgpt

Twins! Means it’s easy to doxx me tho lol.

How did you get this pic of me

Or suffer my cuuuuurse