I mean, there are still multiple large and/or long standing instances out there. It’s not like there is only a single one of them. I would just generally encourage people to utilize those instead. And if they choose a smaller instance that they should be aware of the risks.

Until the admin of a small instance decides to randomly leave the project one day and your account is gone forever. I’ve seen it happen multiple times and it’s why I go for bigger or at the very least, long standing instances.

Thank you guys! I will likely be deleting this post soon (although I know it will likely be eternally on the fediverse).

I had a nice time. We just talked and walked and it was pretty chill. I don’t really know if I had to label the experience as a “date” or anything, but nothing too crazy happened haha. Found out he’ll be moving across the country in a few months (which I already kind of knew by this just confirmed it). That’s ok! Nothing wrong with just meeting a new human and hanging out for a bit. We’re gonna try to do something again before he moves away I think!

Yes we actually “met” on a website for asexual people which I why I feel a lot less pressure in this sort of scenario than way back when I went on a date with a non-asexual person. Weirdly though, a lot of asexual people still want to make out and have sex, but in general it’s not as much as non-asexuals. Thank you, though. I will try to just enjoy the walk and chat.

Yes that’s basically all I want out of any type of relationship!

I don’t mean that no one finds me attractive (not that I am some level of celebrity beauty or anything). I mean the other way around. I don’t have the capacity to find others attractive.

Don’t get me wrong, I can tell the difference between a good looking and an ugly person. It just doesn’t do much for me. It’s like having a nice landscape painting. It’s nice but I don’t feel some type of way about it.

Plus why put this here instead of in the NSFW instance they came from?

That’s honestly what scares me the most. I think we can survive another 4 years of Trump. What I don’t think we could survive is if he completely destroys what democracy stands for and gets rid of our term limit for presidency. That is completely terrifying to me and seems to be a very real threat. Trump is old and he’ll probably die soon, but if he gets rid of term limits then who knows what kind of horrifying monster we could have ruling the country indefinitely after his death once that precedent is set.

But at least I have another 4 years roughly before I have to start worrying about that I guess.

Let me guess, you’re a white cis male?

I work with my one and only IRL friend. The other friends are online. So I vent to my IRL friend while we are working.

Plus writing stuff down doesn’t seem to help me anyway.

Yeah I’ve always been a very casual Linux enthusiast (key word is casual) since I was a teen. Setup and things “just working” out of the box have absolutely never been the case, even in 2024, and even though people like to say it does. In an ideal situation on an ideal computer with ideal hardware, you don’t have to tweak anything. But for most people, there are going to be some annoying issues and tweaks you have to work through.

If a Linux system has already been set up and tested for the end user, then it is a great alternative. But in my experience, these systems absolutely never work perfectly out of the box and it takes some technical know how to get to that point. Ever since Windows 7, Windows has “just worked” out of the box… especially because it comes pre-loaded on your device.

I have been dealing with some issues with my Bluetooth module in Windows. I had eventually solved the problem, but the fix seemed to have reverted itself somewhat recently. Annoyed, I thought I’d finally commit to a switch to Linux on my daily driver since my laptop doesn’t support Win 11. Well, I chose Linux Mint since it doesn’t use Wayland which for some reason has poor compatibility with my common Logitech mouse. Everything had been fine but then I found instead of the Bluetooth module crashing like in Windows, which just makes me have to reset the module, the entire system crashes in Linux instead and requires me to reboot it. Frustrating to say the least.

And then, as you’ve brought up, gaming on Linux is just generally not a good experience unless you have all of your games on Steam.

Linux can be awesome but it’s absolutely not for everyone…especially people with less technical knowledge (unless it is set up for them), people who want something to “just work” without any fiddling, or people who do a lot of gaming outside of Steam.

Damn you’re right…I should install arch

You don’t need to leave a crazy amount of space when stopped at a traffic light, but you still should be leaving some. So if someone rear ends you, it minimizes the risk of your car then smashing into the person in front of you, so it reduces the risk of additional people being involved in an accident.

Currently dealing with this over the span of multiple days. I’m dying send help.

I work with my hands all day! I dictate what I’m doing as I’m doing it. I work in a lab where I’m manipulating and cutting things covered in blood and poo. Dictating is far quicker and cleaned than typing it all out and it means I don’t have to stop manipulating or cutting the specimen to record what I’m doing. Imagine how much quicker it is to read 10 pages out loud than it would be to type the same 10 pages. The voice dictation software works far better than the regular dictation software on your phone because it’s tailored to the type of job I have.

Thank you very much for your kind words. Same to you! 😊

To be honest, I have thought now and then that “maybe I’m just gay”. But I still don’t seem to feel any of that stuff as strongly as sexual people do so idk.

I’ve never dated someone from the same sex, but I’ve been curious about it. These asexual dating sites are mostly filled with men, though, so it’s hard to find a woman both that I’m interested in and that ends up responding to me. My profiles put me as open to both men and women, but I’ve yet to find a woman that wants to mutually chat tbh.

Thanks, man. I’ve known and seen so many people that do. And even most in the comments here seem to think that I should just never bother to try because I don’t operate that way.

This is good to hear, honestly. I felt like I am taking crazy pills a bit when so many people in these comments are saying there is something wrong with me for not being immediately really into someone I just met.

I think one of the difficulties I had is that…maybe a decade ago when I was a lot younger, I had someone who was interested in me. I wasn’t interested in them, but they were nice and so I thought I would maybe try it. We go on a date and it’s going fine but the guy wants to be able to kiss and stuff.

I get that boundaries are a thing and you can tell people no, but… I noticed at that point that most people are sexual. And most sexual people seem to be immediately interested in making out and having sex with someone. I get that not everyone is this way, but the majority of people are because they are driven by sex. So it’s all just a bit confusing and difficult to navigate as someone on the asexual spectrum.

You’re right. Aro ace people should just kill themselves I guess?