Victor

I don’t know what you want to call this instinct, mating or reproduction, whatever. And just because it’s an instinct doesn’t mean everyone needs to have it, no.

It’s a strong urge for me to have children and love them. I would have more if I thought we had room and could afford it, but see? I’m resisting that because of circumstances. I don’t know what you want me to say other than that.

Like I said, I don’t think I can explain this to you. We are at an impasse.

Obviously I’m going to give my all to make my kids suffer as little as possible, just like almost every other animal. 🤷‍♂️ That’s what we parents all do, those of us with our heads on straight.

Like I said, we are not agreeing here and this is exhausting like I knew it would be. Let’s just agree to disagree. It’s probably best here. You’re not reaching out to me with this, I’ve heard it before and I agree to some extent, but I can’t help what I feel. And I can’t explain this to you.

I could’ve decided I wouldn’t have kids, but it would go against my feelings, and it would probably make me incompatible with the love of my life.

We have good circumstances. We live in a country that still has somewhat real democracy in our constitution. If anything, we’ll deal with food shortages and maybe war. We’re already dealing with dairy and meat shortages and we are eating alternatives yet living good. But perhaps our far descendants won’t have to deal with hardship. 🙂

I know you don’t believe in hope, but this is my attempt to spread some. Maybe it doesn’t work on someone who lives where you do or who’ve been shaped by life as you have, I don’t know your situation. If so, I’m sorry. We’re just different, and that’s okay.

Sending love.

Very discoverable name for it’s purpose 😅 Or am I missing something?

I’m not. It’s not about sex.

I wouldn’t have had kids if I thought they would suffer, obviously. You have kids with the hope and ambition, and belief that they will fare well. It took me years to build up the confidence in myself as an adult to even try to have kids.

No child can ever give consent. Does that mean we should also neuter all animals? tHeiR ofFsPrInG WiLl sUfFeR. Like where does this make sense? This is a fundamental necessity of life that you’re trying to talk out of somebody. It’s innate. If you don’t understand it, you don’t feel it. And we are at an explanatory impasse. That’s why we have to agree to disagree here and now.

No hard feelings. 🤝 But please stop acting like I’m some villain. Thanks.

Oookay, now that’s uncalled for. I am strongly against rape, and only for consent. This hasn’t nothing to do with the urge to have sex, and only to do with the want to start a family and pour love into my own kids like my parents did to me. Nothing else.

Don’t go there, that’s not a cool argumentative approach. Don’t do that, please. Thank you.

Alright. People want to have kids no matter what. It’s instinct. You can’t “talk people out of” their instincts. You’ll waste your life in this endeavor, even if you would be correct. I hear your arguments on a logical level, but it doesn’t help.

Take my advice and find another goal, even if it stings. Take care! ❤️

I don’t live in America, no.

I feel like you have too much anger for me to talk in a reasonable manner with you.

You can call me a cop-out and whatever ad hominem you like. I just feel like talking with you would exhausting, no offense. We don’t share the same world view because life isn’t the same all over the world. And that’s sad, but having a child in one part of the world isn’t the same as another.

Feel better, alright? I hope you cope through this. ❤️

I feel like we disagree on a fundamental level. You feel like life isn’t a gift. I feel like it is.

Agree to disagree.

Also we don’t live in such a horrible place, we are actually thriving compared to a lot of places/countries, and we had our kids even before COVID, when the world in our immediate surroundings was a bit better and brighter. There wasn’t as much doubt as to our immediate safety back then.

Have a good one, friend. 👍 Hope your outlook on life improves eventually. ❤️

We had our kids before even COVID. Those were brighter times, my friend. The world sucks now, admittedly.

But we can’t undo our kids, nor do we want to, of course.

More posts than I’ve made in over two years.

Besides that, that’s not very helpful. :⁠-⁠P

We must go on, don’t we. We have to try.

Also a lot of people have children because it’s instinct. They feel the urge. It’s biological. Both me and my wife had this feeling. You want to create something that you will love.

I know all the arguments for not having children, but we are just animals following instinct sometimes/often.

Awful article and post, in that case. Down voting. Thank you! Have my up vote.

Definitely a matter of picking your poison for me. 😅

Perhaps a bit. But I agree with your sentiment besides that. Hopefully we won’t have “the year of the Linux Desktop” as some sort of hard ambition, where we will reach a point where every OS just conforms and converges to the same paradigms, like we basically have on our phones by now.

I’ve heard Guix is better.

They’re still doing something bad: changing the status quo.

I’ll be the nitpicker and point out that changing the status quo doesn’t necessarily need to be a bad thing. Every good thing ever has basically been a change from the status quo. 🤷‍♂️

Anywhere to watch the whole series?

That door opening lever looks sexy though

Broken in what way? I only used it a short while years ago and didn’t notice anything.

Using Niri now on an AMD GPU with great success, it’s working great. Using it for work, gaming, everything I did with i3 and Hyprland before it.

Ah, thanks for the rundown!

I do not get Nazi content lol. Sometimes I’ll see some right wing shit on there but I just go in and press “don’t recommend this channel” on all those before even watching it. It’s been a long time now since I’ve seen a recommendation that doesn’t suit me.

But yeah, not everyone can control YouTube, or themselves, like I can. All I’m saying is that I like shorts. I do agree that they can be dangerous. 😅