https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactance_(psychology)
In psychology, reactance is an unpleasant motivational reaction to offers, persons, rules, regulations, advice, recommendations, information, nudges, and messages that are perceived to threaten or eliminate specific behavioral freedoms. Reactance occurs when an individual feels that an agent is attempting to limit one’s choice of response and/or range of alternatives.
This is just human nature. Even neurotypical people tend to do this.
never said NTs don’t.
if you often find yourself not doing something because someone told you to do it though, chances are higher that you’re on the spectrum. that’s one of the reasons why ABA is a thing.
NTs do it too, just not as often and usually just shrug it off and do whatever they were going to do anyway.