This is a really good way to get hated if you make every chat about some crazy thing that happened in your life, whether or not it’s real.
People like an occasional wild story but if you’re always “commandeering” small talk, people will avoid you. If you want people to actually enjoy hanging out with you, you have to balance this with a lot more asking questions about them, and making them feel equally important to the interaction.
Ok, not what I meant at all. Especially the part about making things up (why insert this?). I just meant that there’s no rule that small talk has to stay as such. You’re making it seem like I meant one should be an unhinged narcissist bragging about their life while ignoring everyone around them.
If you have an interesting life then you can commandeer small talk and make it interesting. It’s an opportunity to introduce other material.
This is a really good way to get hated if you make every chat about some crazy thing that happened in your life, whether or not it’s real.
People like an occasional wild story but if you’re always “commandeering” small talk, people will avoid you. If you want people to actually enjoy hanging out with you, you have to balance this with a lot more asking questions about them, and making them feel equally important to the interaction.
Ok, not what I meant at all. Especially the part about making things up (why insert this?). I just meant that there’s no rule that small talk has to stay as such. You’re making it seem like I meant one should be an unhinged narcissist bragging about their life while ignoring everyone around them.
Just reread it without the benefit of knowing your own intentions and think about how it sounds. (Also a great thing to do in conversation.)
It sounds however your own biases make it sound. This is a dumb game.