pop an energy drink and boot up some new, uncharted game after reserving a whole night to yourself. Yeah, you gonna feel like that kid back then.
Our problem as a species is we’re cursed with knowing.
You can do this but you can’t escape the things you’ve seen, the experiences you’ve had, the new context you view the world in.
Some people can get out of their heads, some people need chemicals to do it for them, but every adult is weighed down with more knowledge than our minds were built to parse and file away safely.
People aren’t scrolling in misery until 4:00 AM looking for something new and exciting, they’re trying to not be in their own head for even a moment so they can feel like that kid with fewer worries again.
Yeah, doesn’t mean you need to drag yourself down and what’s worse, justify being down. Reserve the night and let out lil’ you back into the wild. Have fun ^^ Especially if you hit rock bottom, the only way’s up.
Factually correct, practically impossible for a vast swath of humanity right now.
Rates of self-isolation are soaring, people forming new relationships and having children is plummeting harder than we ever imagined.
I would say to people longing for that “simple pleasure” night for themselves, put yourself on a diet first. Stop feeding your brain media, including sites like Reddit or Lemmy. Stop reading the thoughts of thousands of strangers written as text, read in your own voice inside your mind. Stop reading or watching pundits or reaction streamers or people sitting on chairs, playing games and talking about shit in a one-way narration.
Socialization makes you feel happier generally as an adult, and now we’ve fostered an entire movement of people who cling to their self-diagnosed introversion, autism, ADHD and other labels as if they are shields against having to do hard things like learn emotional intelligence and socialize like an adult. Get out, meet people, start getting comfortable with not knowing what’s blowing up on Twitter.
Okay. I may read the room wrong which does happen sometimes so feel free to correct me but…
To me, you sound heavily judgemental, even borderline aggressive. Some people - me from the past included - need these small moments like feeling again like a kid to build up motivation and yearning for betterment before they can even start working on themselves. It’s rarely a matter of simply willing it to happen, and for some reason people who already feel different and unhappy don’t react well to being patronised and judged.
If you want folk to move forward, offer support. To come out of shell you need to feel safer rather than pressured.
I am very aggressive about some topics and unapologetic. I have seen too much hate and death and loss to feel like I need to be gentle with people who are ostensibly on my side. People retreating from discomfort is how we have such an atomized world with so many people withdrawing from socializating, and as a result, abandoning the only real power we had which is community.
Seeing nostalgia for what it is, a tool of destruction, is a hard step to get over, but once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
Your first sentence does clear up some space for me so…
I do feel for you and I symphatise with your point but my experience and what I saw in others screams at me that pushing and judging people only brings more suffering, because the only reaction to that is going on the defense. Even if they agree, they will protect themselves first, ask questions later…if ever.
Nostalgia can be a drive for better or a brake, depends on the person - as an example, it was what pushed me to finally better my mental state. I remembered how I was, and how I felt and I wanted to go back. And I did, at least mentally. Demons still out there but as you said in first comment in this chain, it ain’t gonna go away. But I wouldn’t be better if not for nostalgia, among other things, so yeah.
Our problem as a species is we’re cursed with knowing.
You can do this but you can’t escape the things you’ve seen, the experiences you’ve had, the new context you view the world in.
Some people can get out of their heads, some people need chemicals to do it for them, but every adult is weighed down with more knowledge than our minds were built to parse and file away safely.
People aren’t scrolling in misery until 4:00 AM looking for something new and exciting, they’re trying to not be in their own head for even a moment so they can feel like that kid with fewer worries again.
Yeah, doesn’t mean you need to drag yourself down and what’s worse, justify being down. Reserve the night and let out lil’ you back into the wild. Have fun ^^ Especially if you hit rock bottom, the only way’s up.
Factually correct, practically impossible for a vast swath of humanity right now.
Rates of self-isolation are soaring, people forming new relationships and having children is plummeting harder than we ever imagined.
I would say to people longing for that “simple pleasure” night for themselves, put yourself on a diet first. Stop feeding your brain media, including sites like Reddit or Lemmy. Stop reading the thoughts of thousands of strangers written as text, read in your own voice inside your mind. Stop reading or watching pundits or reaction streamers or people sitting on chairs, playing games and talking about shit in a one-way narration.
Socialization makes you feel happier generally as an adult, and now we’ve fostered an entire movement of people who cling to their self-diagnosed introversion, autism, ADHD and other labels as if they are shields against having to do hard things like learn emotional intelligence and socialize like an adult. Get out, meet people, start getting comfortable with not knowing what’s blowing up on Twitter.
Okay. I may read the room wrong which does happen sometimes so feel free to correct me but…
To me, you sound heavily judgemental, even borderline aggressive. Some people - me from the past included - need these small moments like feeling again like a kid to build up motivation and yearning for betterment before they can even start working on themselves. It’s rarely a matter of simply willing it to happen, and for some reason people who already feel different and unhappy don’t react well to being patronised and judged.
If you want folk to move forward, offer support. To come out of shell you need to feel safer rather than pressured.
I am very aggressive about some topics and unapologetic. I have seen too much hate and death and loss to feel like I need to be gentle with people who are ostensibly on my side. People retreating from discomfort is how we have such an atomized world with so many people withdrawing from socializating, and as a result, abandoning the only real power we had which is community.
Seeing nostalgia for what it is, a tool of destruction, is a hard step to get over, but once you see it, you can’t unsee it.
Your first sentence does clear up some space for me so…
I do feel for you and I symphatise with your point but my experience and what I saw in others screams at me that pushing and judging people only brings more suffering, because the only reaction to that is going on the defense. Even if they agree, they will protect themselves first, ask questions later…if ever.
Nostalgia can be a drive for better or a brake, depends on the person - as an example, it was what pushed me to finally better my mental state. I remembered how I was, and how I felt and I wanted to go back. And I did, at least mentally. Demons still out there but as you said in first comment in this chain, it ain’t gonna go away. But I wouldn’t be better if not for nostalgia, among other things, so yeah.