That headline. First I thought Iranians sunbathe and play with drones at the same time? Then had the unfortunate mental image of Trump sunbathing.

Yoga & lifting but mostly yoga. I got in a pretty bad car accident 10 years ago and did not get hurt, I mean got banged up but my back did not get hurt at all. Everyone told me “just wait” but that shoe never dropped, and I’m sure it’s the yoga. Fell on my ass the other day (enthusiastic dog knocked my feet out from under me on a slippery surface) and didn’t get hurt, and I’m old enough one of the questions the doctor asks is “any falls lately”

Move it in every direction, strengthen all those little muscles and yes, core but not just abs, every side of your core. Bodies are use it or lose it systems.

You know, when I got my current job, the people in my department said"we tried to find your Facebook but couldn’t" and I said 'yeah that’s because I don’t have one."

13 years later, still don’t.

Though honestly even our work teams chat would probably be too spicy for these motherfuckers. They just want a pretext to keep out anybody. Like some law impossible to follow, that they can selectively enforce.

My kids ranked me as neutral good; you can tear my cafe con leche from my cold dead hands, but never drank milk on it’s own. It’s a fantastic ingredient though.

It’s hot & humid here in the subtropics but even so I love this season the most. I was born here and grew up without AC so adapted I guess. Being still in the shade with a breeze I am comfortable up to a pretty high temp but here the summer has afternoon storms that cool it a little so the evening, while hot, is usually 25-27 not 40.

Our indoor AC is set to 26. That feels cool enough in the summer, so evening is comfortable.

I cannot get comfortable in the cold, no amount of clothing seems to work, I just don’t generate that much heat.

Riding home on the bike is MUCH safer in the daylight too.

I love it, for real. Short winter days suck, especially after going back to standard time. Having light in the evening is wonderful.

Yeah I was an anorexic teenager and while I didn’t just keep getting smaller, was maintaining at 99lbs, 5’9" for years. I weigh about 150 now and even though I literally feel so good physically, and understand that’s kinda unusual at my age, and have managed to at least keep my bone mass (it’s low, obviously, but not declining, made it through menopause with all of it, and that’s also unusual) and logically understand that:

1. This is considered smack dab perfect weight for my height and age.

2. Losing weight now would be kind of dumb and counterproductive.

I cannot shake the fear and dislike and anxiety over being this big. I don’t want to be 99lb, no way no how absolutely not. But at every single point between that and this I feel too fat. There is no weight that will look how I want, though, and again, I suspect this here is ideal because nothing hurts and I’m strong, though not fast. I know it’s my mind that is the problem, and not my body. But knowing it doesn’t make me not feel too big.

What the actual fuck? When this first came around, my eyes saw white and gold, in this post it looks like overexposed brown and blue, and looking at this graphic is fucking with my head! Brains are wee photo editors, aren’t they?

I think when the surgery is good, nobody notices it. Two women at my work had to get eyelid lifts for medical reasons, and both came out looking so much better and not at all “done”. Really nobody would ever think they had plastic surgery and even I forget then think wow that was great work.

That standard filler face though? I know the look it’s emulating and we cannot all look like that! I knew an old old lady who had been a Vogue fashion model in the 40s and 50s and she had that bone structure that ages so well, the high big cheekbones, eyebrows that had started out so high she had room for them to fall, I look at those overdone samey samey faces and it’s not going to work. I cannot take my wide round face and morph it into that with filler!

Sunscreen. Retin-A. Sleep and exercise. Those are the way to keep looking good as you are getting old. I can’t understand botox because if exercise keeps everything else healthy how is it bad for your face?

Yeah, she sure does look like someone at least 45 with filler and botox. I think it’s a style thing, she got the filler and botox already for some reason. Perhaps evil does age people.

Fennel too- I always thought the white part was below the earth, like an onion. But no, the whole fennel sits on the earth, on a tippy root that’s underground.

This happens to us - if I cook dinner for everyone, two of us eat, if I cook dinner for two of us, everyone wants to eat. If I make enough for leftovers, nobody takes them to lunch. If I don’t make enough, they ask why there is not enough for lunch.

Things that help on your question though -

Canned beans, canned tomatoes, canned coconut milk, canned pumpkin, jarred spaghetti sauce, spices - a lot of our staples are not perishable.

Do you live where you can stop by the store on the way home? Then don’t buy perishables for the week, buy them for the meal you are making.

Some foods and meals freeze pretty well, freeze them and keep a list of what’s in the freezer so you remember to eat it.

I hate meal planning but it helps a lot. I sometimes put a note on the fridge “we have food for dal with spinach, chicken & cabbage, sheet pan gnocchi with sausage and broccoli, eggs and potatoes” or whatever we have the food to make, and cross them off as they are made.

Some foods make other foods. So if I make a hunk of pork, it’s pork, rice and beans then enchiladas then burritos, and so on.

Mine is “You have reached my phone but not me, I don’t really check voicemail, if you need to reach me, text.” I still get voicemail.

Some voicemail the phone will transcribe, those I read but really don’t listen to them.

I am so, so, so glad that the trend of nipple-less Barbie doll boobs is finally letting go. I am old enough to remember a time before the thick foam Wonderbra era. Finally I can find thin unlined bras, and go without one in lots of tops, without feeling undressed (I am in Florida).

I hated that smooth lumps look, and it does seem to be falling out of favor now.

Lead, don’t follow. The foam padding is a trend not something that has always been a part of normal dress.

It goes straight into the fridge, been doing this for over 30 years with no problem. I don’t save half eaten pasta, just split it after it’s cooked.

Cook it all. Save what you don’t eat in a sealed container in the refrigerator. Cooked noodles are so useful. Fry them with chili paste, yum yum! Make peanut sauce and eat them cold. Even just tossed with sesame oil and salt they are pretty good.

Yoga isn’t competitive, but is physical exercise, that was why the example. Sport in general could be less competitive, and more fun.

There are already lots of categories in competitive sports. Nobody at my kids school was hostile towards the trans kids, that hostility is coming from the state and a few parents and the schools, as far as we can tell, are doing their best to insulate the kids from it.

Trans men can’t compete against women because that’s literally illegal doping. My kid wanted to start T at 18 and wanted to do soccer at school and I had to gently remind him that was not possible, the school isn’t allowed to let girls onto the boys team (for sports that have a girls team) and then they could not be on the girls team either.

So that’s already handled with existing rules.

I do agree with more categories, if we already have categories, and if there are enough people in a given category to field a team. Schools don’t need to rank teams, honestly, they could just stop doing that, let the kids play on mixed teams and be better off. I don’t personally know any trans people who think it’s unfair they can’t do pro sports, though I’m sure they exist.

I do know a lady who transitioned though, did yoga with her and she could still do better more of the things guys are better at, despite being on E for a long time because she still had the shoulders & frame like a guy, weight distribution different. Was also 6’3" but height doesn’t confer specific advantage in yoga.

they lose all their muscle mass after transition. Estrogen does that

Women have muscle mass, WTF?

Well, in my family of now just 4 we do have 2 cars because my husband and I each had one when we married. Nowadays this is the commute.

Mornings:

I take the bike

College kid takes my car, drops off high school kid then drives to her school

Husband takes his car to work

There is actually a direct city bus from our neighborhood to both the University and the high school, but because both are farther than my work and they run so infrequent it makes them need to leave so early, so I let the kids use the car.

(When there was one car it was a bigger loop sometimes, or sometimes there is a school bus available, so the kids can take that. Or the school was sometimes only a mile or two (3k or so) then the kids walk.)

Evenings:

I take the bike

Husband drives

College kid drives

High school kids gets a ride from a friend or takes the city bus BUT that bus comes only once an hour so if he misses it, he will walk, about 4 miles.

In my city, there are buses, but because there’s sprawl to the edges of the huge county, and all the people in the suburbs drive and don’t want buses, and the county (not the city) is in charge of transportation, it’s starved to the point of near impossible inconvenience.

There are plenty of people living inside the city now, we’ve got a nice downtown, with people living there, but at this point it’s all set up to favor automobiles. Like I intentionally live in a short walk distance to bus stops that could get me anywhere the buses go, but I use the electric bike and can get anywhere faster than the bus. Transfers are so bad because the buses are so infrequent.