I don’t put tomatoes in salad or sandwiches (I don’t pick them out if they are in, but don’t affirmatively like them, texture and taste).

Onion and cheese are my non-negotiables in a sandwich. Pickled jalapenos or cucumbers can sub for tomato IMO. Fancy mayo can also be good for adding interest to a sandwich, or compound butter if you prefer.

For a salad, whatever the fuck you want can go in a salad! There is an Italian salad that is just shaved fennel, onion, oranges, and olives. I actually like it but my point is, if that can be a salad anything can. Also - if you like the taste of tomatoes but not the gloppy seed part, you can scoop that out of the tomato slices or just use the outside part and cut out the middle, like you would do with a bell pepper.

How do you feel about sun dried tomatoes?

I’m older and experienced and can say with confidence that no, most women are not into literal bodybuilder guys. Some, surely. But most? No. Ideal is in shape but not obsessive, bodybuilder looks obsessive.

And the wyvern is correct IMO it is the same as the absolutely jacked women. Most guys are not into bodybuilder ladies, probably for the same reason.

Fitness looks good on everyone. Obsession with getting big muscles, doping, extreme builds are not mainstream attractive. That has gone past general health and fitness.

I dunno. I bought a Honda new twice. Once showed up on the city bus and negotiated them down to a nothing down & low monthly payment that I could manage for 5 years (I am an accountant and first built a spreadsheet with present value calculations to figure out my target price) car is built to last 20 at least, I paid it off easily enough, then someone ran a stop sign and absolutely smashed it to bits, I took the insurance money as a down payment and got a better car new, same low monthly, paid that off years ago and have been driving it since 2014. This was mostly possible because Honda did a zero or 1% loan both times. Used to buy beaters but this has been so much nicer, and it’s easier on cash flow. I hope I can keep this one for as long as I need a car (mostly use the electric bike now) because it has all the tech I want but none of the tech I don’t want. Like at this point if I won the lottery I still don’t know if I’d want a car of today.

New car at today’s prices, and what they are, I kind of agree with you but used cars at today’s prices seem just as bad of a deal. And it was not always like this. You used to be able to negotiate, they had too much inventory.

Never. Once I realize I am dreaming, I can act on my own. I try not to disturb or actively control the dream world though, always want to explore it.

Why is she always standing in front of a fan? Does she carry around a wee box fan to blow back her hair?

Me too but that’s the smallest part of parenting, right? I felt so good pregnant, no migraines, insane sex drive, so healthy and it did a lot for my relationship with my body in general. Labor not bad,the baby coming out is terrible but didn’t take long, but after that it’s a very long road. I did love raising kids, but don’t think that has much to do with easy pregnancy.

This was my mom. I luckily had my easy babies after the more screamy one, but my mom had 3 kids, said she was always so judgemental of parents with kids throwing tantrums in the store, she knew she was doing something right because we didn’t do that, and in her words:

"For my hubris, God sent me Janet "

And she figured out that there are kids who scream in the store no matter what you do.

I know Lemmy is aggressively anti-child for some reason, but parenting was by far the best work I have ever done. Kids are work but such delightful little people.

Also my mom - I didn’t remember her being affectionate with us, she did a good job of clothing, feeding, educating us but wasn’t ever really, I dunno, Mom - like? I asked her about it once and she said "I don’t like little kids " and I was like WTF you had so many kids! And she said “well I like you all NOW, I knew you would grow up and become people.”

I have 2 at a time, and yes it’s so I can coordinate the scents with perfume.

I’ve been to England and Scotland, and agree with you, this was in the 1980s and their idea of a dangerous neighborhood cracked me right up. London had no areas equivalent to what counted as a dangerous area in my city (though we have made great strides in the US since then in reducing violence, believe it or not. And in my city even more so, we went from so rough to relatively safe).

I don’t think I would have called it free-er though? Safer for sure though, and healthcare so much better.

Are you kidding? 57 is interesting. From Wikipedia:

57 is semiprime, a Blum integer, and a Leyland number.[3]

The split Lie algebra E⁠7+ 1 / 2 ⁠ has a 57-dimensional Heisenberg algebra as its nilradical, and the smallest possible homogeneous space for E8 is also 57-dimensional.

Although fifty-seven is not prime, it is jokingly known as the Grothendieck prime after a legend in which the mathematician Alexander Grothendieck gave it as an example of a prime number, not realizing it was divisible by three. The same error was made by another famous mathematician, Hermann Weyl, in a published article.

This just came up today when I was talking to me husband but Jolie Lade - unconventional beauty, someone who is beautiful without being pretty or handsome.

Si, pero Ingles es mas popular.

I do see posts in Spanish sometimes, and there are all Spanish communities too.

I do see also lots of German on Lemmy.

I don’t usually worry about that. Most people need a little armor between themselves and the world and they will open up slowly as they trust you. A persona to handle daily interactions with others is not necessarily a bad thing.

So I think my line is drawn more at manipulative. I would consider someone too “fake” if they did it on purpose to harm others or help themselves at the expense of others. Someone who would act nice to you while trying to harm you. Most people, in my experience, do not rise to this level of fake, so, like I said, I don’t worry about it.

I can’t say a believe in rules like the half your age plus 7 thing but barely adult and barely minor is not pedophilia, particularly if you were together before aging up to adult, but even if not. The line at 18 is arbitrary, some places that’s 16, and I don’t think 18 is adult like a grownup, that seems to take a few more years. There are also usually laws that say it’s not illegal if you are within some number of years, not a big gap.

That adult/minor split happened to my kid, they were a senior and girlfriend a junior so after graduation we tease them about “dating a high schooler” but they are the same couple as before.

A 3 year gap will just seem smaller and smaller (in that way the half plus 7 thing is true, it’s just stupid as a hard rule). I’m old and 5 years in either direction is about as far as I like to go, because I like guys my age, and that’s what seems “my age” now.

People. And people.

That’s not even in town, New Tampa is technically part of the city but way north, past parts that are unincorporated and farther than Temple Terrace.

We bought our house a few years ago for nearly 300k, and I was so upset because I thought we were at the top of the bubble then. Like, there is no way a house is worth that, it’s insane. But now a smaller house on our road wants $600k (new coat of paint, as you say) a literal empty lot sold for more than our house cost, and they are building horrifying monstrosities like this, it’s so ugly!

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/1808-W-Erna-Dr-Tampa-FL-33603/2052977072_zpid/

I am old enough to remember 2 crashes, one I bought my first house, a shithole but so cheap, and then the bank bailout crash. What goes up comes down, and it always begins with the ‘we will buy your house’ flyers in the mail and people saying real estate always goes up.

I had a boss that everyone else had trouble working for. He was a workaholic and openly told us that he would keep giving us more to do until we said it was too much. Crazy smart and didn’t sleep much, even after work he was working out or learning to play guitar or speak Spanish or how to cook. The combination of that edict and his own example, (he did more than any two of us put together) mostly people took it as a challenge, like they weren’t supposed to say no. I took it at face value, did what I could do well, goofed off plenty, took my PTO.

Whenever we got year end reviews he would give me points for time management and keeping a work/life balance. I do not actually have good time management.

We are still friends, years later. His work habits broke up his marriage but I don’t think he really slowed down.

I still have this job. Figure managers come and go, but honestly I liked working with workaholic guy.

I live in Tampa. Houses around me are getting pulled down and replaced with 1-1.75M houses at a frightening pace. This has to be a bubble, nobody who works here could afford the rent or mortgage on that. Taxes alone on a 1.5M house would be 24,000 per year!

Yes. I got an electric bike at 55 not 40 (late bloomer I guess) but only possible because work lets me park it inside, and there is room for it inside my house. I do park & lock it at the grocery or yoga or whatever but 95% of the time either I am on it or it’s indoors.

With you on the lack of safe paths though. The best they do here is some paint on the road on some roads. The city is trying, it’s fought by the county gov though.

On topic I think - sometimes I am looking at clothing or furniture and something wildly expensive will come across my screen, like this:

https://www.dwr.com/living-sofas/crystal-lounge-sofa-three-seater/2589749-2.html?lang=en_US

And I can’t figure out who the market is for that. If I had 30 grand budget for a couch, I would have something custom made. Same with the clothes. Who is buying the hyper- expensive ready to wear? I would have things made.