I get a quarterly magazine from the Bruderhof, I would consider that cult Real Christians. They live in community, don’t own things individually, are pacifists, and seem overall to be actual Christians, in the way I understand Christianity.
We have crab cakes, some snacks you heat in the oven (jalapeno poppers and bean empanadas), tinned fish like sardines and similar, and cheese and crackers. And a “champagne” the Cava Raventos Blanc Blanc de blancs which is the best bubbly white wine I have ever had and not even expensive.
New Year’s Day is black eyed peas, collard greens, and potatoes. Yum.
Not good at receiving criticism in the moment, kind of defensive. I can hear it but cannot immediately say “yeah you are right”, it feels more like insult than help. Some of this is leftover hangups from my ex, who was quite cutting, mean about it. But some just my own immature tendencies. I have pretty much learned not to react and wait until I can think about it more objectively.
We have a road that goes under a bridge so that you can make a right to go east on a 4 lane road. People would sit at that corner waiting to go left and it caused massive backups. (Which made no sense, why go under the bridge then? Use a different corner and make a right to go west!). We asked the city to make it right turn only - they interpreted it slightly differently and thought we meant people were heading straight the wrong way up a one way, rather than turning to that corner, came and put a temporary sign. I went with one of my kids, wearing safety vests, and moved the temporary sign to the corner we wanted it at.
Later the city came and put the permanent sign where we had it, and ALSO changed the paint on the road to make it one way right at the corner and disallowed left turns INTO that corner, they just broadly said no left. Which is good. Nobody should be stopping at the bottom of a bridge to wait to make a left turn.
It’s not like NOBODY does the left anymore, but there are not backups now because nobody is going to sit there waiting to go left, they get honked at.
I had a boyfriend in England, he was Scottish (town southwest of Glasgow) but had lived in Canada, so the accent was muted. I am from Florida with parents from Louisiana so southern but not Southern l. I liked when he got drunk because he got more Scottish and he liked when I got drunk because I sounded Southern.
The worst Mexican food I’ve had was in San Antonio Texas, believe it or not.
Where I live, if you find a hole-in-the-wall Mexican place it will be fantastic, I thought that rule held everywhere. Oh no. No, no, no.
Remarkably bad food, so bad. Mole made with sweetened milk chocolate. American cheese in the enchiladas. Comically bad. Absolute shit food. And outside of that one horrible experience, overall very hit or miss. How? They literally WERE Mexico! I was expecting something so good. The only great food we got there was at a hipster breakfast place.
It’s funny because Tampa does bat way over its league in restaurants generally. We have amazing food here, all over. Why is “the” food that sandwich? It’s good but def overrated.
I agree on lobster because I think crab tastes better.
Agree on truffles, I think they are just expensive because they are rare and fragile, not because they are magically delicious.
People here LOVED Dave’s hot chicken. I went and really, it’s fine, I’d eat it but wouldn’t affirmatively choose it, if getting industrial fried chicken Popeyes and Publix are both better.
And man do people love Cuban Sandwiches here. Again, I will eat them they are fine but mostly because the bread is so good. Would rather just have a roast pork on the bread, dressed, without the ham & salami, or even the cheese toast on Cuban Bread I think is so good. There is nothing magical about the 3 meat combo.
Chilaquiles slap.
Tacos al pastor, yum. Never thought I could like pineapple in savory food.
Sopa Tarasca is heavenly.
Simple bean burrito with refried pintos, shredded cheddar cheese, chopped onion & chipotle salsa is something I would eat for breakfast, lunch or supper.
Respectfully disagree, I do rate it highly and think it belongs there. Even the simple stuff (if by mush you mean refried beans) is seasoned well and delicious. Tasty mush.
His other songs feel better to sing IMO, Last of my Kind and If it Takes a Lifetime are both so satisfying to sing.
I like to sing but have a good range of about half an octave. Here are the two extremes for me.
Cherokee by Kamasi Washington has an angelic singer who I cannot stand to sing with, I just listen.
We always belt it on C’mon Baby Cry by Orville Peck though even though nobody in my house can hit both his low and high falsetto notes, his voice & range is crazy good. I’m sure it sounds bad but feels so good to sing.
Eh? Comics are stories. I love reading books, so much, and never found it fatiguing? By easier to draw, do you mean “a picture is worth a thousand words”? Like it’s easier to convey meaning in pictures? Maybe, but I love long books, short stories and comics too.
If you want a great story, here is one for your group
https://www.lightspeedmagazine.com/fiction/the-fiddler-of-bayou-teche/
Yeah as long as they can take it, they can dish it.
My thoughts - I am not about to police anyone’s desires, that’s not my job. Be as picky as you want, it’s a big world full of people, you will probably find someone. Just don’t get mad if the woman you want finds you don’t meet her standards. I’ve had guys turn me down for being tall, don’t care, better to know that even if I think it’s stupid, right?
I think my daughters were pickier than the boys, honestly. Not about $$ at all but more picky in general. The boys did more like I did, and their dad, just sort of get around and see what sticks, you might be surprised who you find hottest and most attractive.
I would be annoyed if a guy didn’t like that I work and take care of my looks and health, too. My husband is funny, he says I have raised his standards. Me, I got what I wanted, sex every day and a guy who works and makes money, works out, he’s not shredded at all but fit and padded, yes? He got what he wanted, I work and make money, shit at housekeeping but really good cook, I stay in shape and work out too. So some of what reads as picky can be more lifestyle matching. I would not be with a sedentary guy, certainly not at this point. I am older and not signing up for a 100% chance of taking physical care of some physically idle old man when he inevitably gets sick.
Sure, but this is more just pointing out hypocrisy, the complaining is what I think they are getting at. He doesn’t think his standards are unreasonable only that women having the same standards is unreasonable.
Opposite for me. I try to always fall asleep sober, going to bed drunk gives me interrupted sleep. Fall asleep faster, sure. But always wake up in the night. Sober, I sometimes have trouble falling asleep but once asleep generally sleep until morning.
More than one a day is pretty unhealthy, could you just time a small nightcap right, and drink less not none?
That’s our cats. They can get through the door without you even seeing them do it. The dogs just sit and look at the open door unless we tell them to go through.
Once my cat ran out the door and back in, with a lizard in her mouth, before I could close it or yell for her. Most efficient hunt I have ever witnessed.
My feet are narrow so I do this sometimes, to get a better fit in width, so they ‘stick’ and don’t just slide out the front. If your feet are wide don’t do it. And yes there is more tolerance in sandals.
Mine fought like banshees when they were young but are so close and friendly as adults. I didn’t do anything to make any of it happen as far as I can tell. I never understood why they fought so much, and they are so funny and love each other so much now.
Exhaustion is so disorienting. I remember when my kids were very young and I couldn’t sleep well, sometimes would get up because I had to pee, go to the bathroom but not be entirely convinced I was actually awake and not dreaming so I wasn’t going to risk peeing in case I was dreaming.
Now I go to sleep when I am sleepy, not before, and if it’s late I text my husband “let me sleep until I wake up please”. He has an alarm but I sleep through it, he wakes me up gently. Very luxurious.
Yeah I am often so shocked that people think the modern world is dangerous. Like, I guess, but crime where I live has dropped precipitously since I was a kid here, especially violent crime, so I always want to laugh when someone talks about a ‘rough neighborhood’ or worries I am walking somewhere. Crime has been dropping for the last 50 years!
The most dangerous place to go is the past.