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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Maybe it’s time to get better at researching companies before major decisions. Do you have a system in place for doing background research on future large purchases?

    That shame is no use unless it helps you update your behavior. Shame about a “one-off” decision in the past will continue to nag you until you figure out how to avoid the same mistake in the future.

    So how can you avoid realizing ten years out that some big purchase you made supported someone you disagree with? How can you do it in advance?











  • That’s not how I see it. I used to see it that way, but as I switched sides that coincided with me daring to hope again, and seeing the good in people.

    I’m sorry all you see when you look at your country is shit. That’s a terrible place to be. I hope you can at least intellectually understand, even if you don’t feel it in your gut, that such a worldview is highly dependent on the filters in your own perception.

    I think you probably know that, but my hunch is you only think of that self-deception as operating toward the positive: that goodness can be an illusion but badness must be reality because why would a person project badness onto the world.

    I will propose that a person can be motivated to hallucinate badness, because a world with some good in it can hurt a lot more than a world with no good in it, because hope is painful.

    It’s like trying to light a fire when you’re freezing in the middle of the woods. Moving your frozen fingers around, trying to light a match, uncurling your body to stack up the wood, it all hurts far more than just curling up in a ball and going to sleep.

    Obviously there’s always going to be evil in everything, including you and me and including the entire country. But the existence of evil doesn’t make the world dark; it makes it a place of contrast.

    Of the things you mentioned — freedom, happiness, well-being — which would you say is the highest one? If you had to pick one to put at the top of your own hierarchy, and have the country stand for it above all else, which of those three would be the highest ideal?