• Lembot_0003@lemmy.zipEnglish
    46·
    10 days ago

    I demand more variants:

    1. The power of yes
    2. The power of no
    3. The weakness of yes
    4. The weakness of no
    5. Is yes better than no?
    6. Is no better than yes?
    7. Yes or no?
    8. No or yes?
    9. Yes to yes!
    10. Yes to no!
    11. No to yes!
    12. No to no!
    13. Nooooooo!
    14. Yessssss!
    15. Nyes!
    16. Yeno!
    17. Olololono
    18. Yeah-yeah-brrrrrr!
      19…
  • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
    37·
    10 days ago

    The real self-help secret is balance, but different people have different biases so the changes necessary to achieve balance are different.

    Timid pessimists need to learn the power of yes.

    People-pleasers need to learn the power of no.

    Procrastinators need to work more.

    Workaholics need to work less.

    Narcissists need to be considerate of others.

    The insecure need to be considerate of themselves.

    Trying to read every self help book for maximum mental health is like taking every pill in your medicine cabinet for maximum physical health.

    • B-TR3E@feddit.org
      9·
      10 days ago

      The real “self-help secret” is “self” and hardly a secret. It’s the first bloody word in “self-help”. The real problem is that people event want someone else to do their self-help for them. The second problem is that they don’t even see the fucking paradox in it. Thinking is hard. Let’s go shopping…

      • agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works
        9·
        10 days ago

        Seeking help when you’re unsure how to address your problems is a part of helping yourself. No one knows everything, you have to learn somehow. Sure, the industry is plagued by commodification, but the principle of learning these techniques and perspectives from books isn’t inherently lesser than learning any other subject that way.

        • B-TR3E@feddit.org
          1·
          9 days ago

          Sure, but expectig turn-key solutions from the end- and contentless rows of self-help guides isn’t quite effective unless you hit the one in a dozen that actually was written with the intent of being helpful instead of making easy money from other peoples troubles. And the OP seemed to point into that direction.

  • TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world
    18·
    10 days ago

    I find reading philosophy in general to be better self-help than these actual new age self-help books. Taoism is particularly relevant today because of cult of productivity, utility and hustle culture which I find rather surprising people are doing-- because this trend is only serving the capital owners at the end, not yourself. Taoism teaches to slow down and at times being “useless” proves to be more useful.

  • iii@mander.xyzEnglish
    10·
    10 days ago

    “Red pill or blue pill?”

    Depends on what party I’m going to 😎

  • Onionguy@lemm.ee
    4·
    9 days ago

    Idk who said it but self help comes down to that ancient greek philosophers axiom “Know yourself.” Know your emotions, your past, your behaviour, motivations, desires, relationship style, socialisacion your dispositions, strengths and wounds. That is the foundation for all really. Get to know yourself. Self exploration can give your life meaning.